Melissa Malerba MacNeil

DANGEROUS WOMAN – STAY AWAY – DANGER! DANGER! DANGER!

Melissa Malerba a/k/a Melissa MacNeil a/k/a MELMACNEIL a/k/a MELMACNE
OVERT NARCISSIST – STAY AWAY – DANGEROUS WOMAN –
DANGEROUS WOMAN – STAY AWAY – DANGER! DANGER! DANGER!

Melissa Malerba
a/k/a
Melissa MacNeil
a/k/a MELMACNEIL
a/k/a MELMACNE
from Revere MA
Tewksbury MA
Lowell MA
DOB 3-2-1972

– HIGHLY DANGEROUS ABUSIVE OVERTLY NARCISSISTIC WOMAN –

Melissa Malerba Fits EVERY SINGLE Criteria on the list of
“How to Spot a Dangerous Woman”

SHE WILL GASLIGHT YOU CONSTANTLY
Meaning, She will tell you what you are thinking and feeling.
Example, “You are still in love with your ex-wife”
When you deny it, she will tell you you are lying.

MELISSA MALERBA WILL DO EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE
10 Gaslighting Signs in an Abusive Relationship TO YOU!!!

She will insult you, then tell you that YOU are abusive.
She will tell you sob stories about her past relationships
and how bad the men were. LIES!!!
She seeks out KIND HEARTED, GREAT, GENEROUS, HELPFUL GUYS
and TAKES THEM FOR ALL THEY HAVE, and emotionally abuses them
until the guy LEAVES needing years of therapy after
enduring her Narcissistic emotional TORTURE for as long as they
have been with her.

When you tell her something, she will make a sing-song “Uhhh-HUH”
after everything you say, indicating SHE DOESN’T BELIEVE A WORD
YOU ARE SAYING.

She lies – and will call YOU a liar.
She cheats – and will call YOU the cheater.
She will INSULT YOU – and call YOU “abusive”
She will manipulate you into feeling badly for her,
“I’m a woman, and I haven’t had the monsy to get my hair done
in a year.. (sob)” – She wants YOU to pay $150 for her color and styling.

SHE WANTS YOUR MONEY – SHE DOESN’T WANT YOU.

SHE WILL NOT PAY FOR ANYTHING, EVER!!!
(Not even a f*%king cup of coffee)
She will cook for you (and for herself) but only
after YOU GIVE HER MONEY FOR GROCERIES.

She will insult you, and when you react angrily,
she will tell you one or more of the following:
“You have Anger Issues”
“You’re angry because of what some woman in your past has done to you”
“You need therapy”
“You need to be on medication”
– NO WAY ARE YOU ANGRY BECAUSE SHE INSULTED YOU, RIGHT ?!?!? –
(which she will not even acknowledge doing, even five seconds after she does it!)
– and when you call her out on it you will be met with “You’re crazy, that never happened.”
“You’re too sensitive.” “You’re making things up”
“You’re childish” “You’re infantile”

MELISSA MALERBA – MACNEIL FITS ALL THESE SIGNS
Gaslighting Narcissist? Top 10 Signs You’re Being
Manipulated in a Toxic Relationship

https://www.davidwolfe.com/10-signs-victim-gaslighting/

Her POF profile says
“I have a passion for helping people and bern through a lot.”

(“bern through a lot” is an interesting typo, because she
really HAS BURNED THROUGH a LOT of men,
AND YOU, BROTHER, WILL BE NEXT)

She DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU.

She NEVER WILL CARE ABOUT YOU.

Melissa Malerba
a/k/a
Melissa MacNeil
a/k/a MELMACNEIL from Lowell MA and Tewksbury MA
is a Narcissistic Woman who is only
seeking financial and emotional sponsors.

AND YOU WILL **NOT** BE THE ONLY ONE – EVER.

MelMacNeil will give you sh*t test after sh*t test
after sh*t test after sh*t test after sh*t test
after sh*t test after sh*t test to see if you really,
REALLY like her
and if you will be an acceptable candidate to play host to
supply to her parasitic financial and emotional needs.

If you pass those tests, she will open up to you and tell
you about her horrible life, with “Poor me!” and
“Life is so unfair” stories
**************************
She claims that the “Spirit of God” speaks to her.
(which is a lie, because the words she says contradict
the Bible… and if you call her out on that, she will say
“The Bible is not meaningful, The Bible is old.
God speaks differently than that now”)

If you show yourself to be a suitable victim to her,
Melmacneil will tell you that the “spirit” has
told her that YOU ARE THE ONE SHE IS DESTINED TO MARRY!!!

NOTE:
If you have deep emotional feelings for her,
this statement will send your heart reeling with joy!!!
***BUT BE WARNED***
You are not the first man she has said this to!
and you will definitely NOT BE THE LAST!!!

She wants only wants your MONEY.
She wants only your admiration.
She wants you to buy her a house – even together –
SO SHE CAN GET THE HOUSE ALL TO HERSELF FROM YOU WHEN
SHE FILES A POLICE REPORT ON YOU AND YOU GET LOCKED UP.
YOU MEAN NOTHING TO HER.
YOU WILL ALWAYS MEAN NOTHING TO HER

She DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU.
She NEVER WILL CARE ABOUT YOU.
She is INCAPABLE OF LOVE,
She will only string you along while she seeks out other
men on Facebook, Snapchat,
POF, and in REAL LIFE every single day.
Seeking out other host men that she can leech money and
admiration from.

YOU will ALWAYS mean NOTHING to her!!!!

If you call her out on this, she will say
“I am not looking for anyone else, I just like to be told
that I am pretty”

She will not introduce you to her friends.
If you do happen to be out somewhere, and you bump into
her friends by coincidence,
HER FRIENDS WILL NOT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT YOU.

You are NOTHING to her but a mirror, telling her how
beautiful and wonderful she is.
She is a Narcissist.
She’s a selfish woman and does not care about you.
She’s a selfish woman and NEVER WILL care about you.

All conversations are about HER.
She will accuse you of yelling when
you have not even raised your voice even a little bit.
(GASLIGHTING)

She will accuse you of being snide and belittling if you
call her out on her narcissistic behavior. (GASLIGHTING)

She will accuse you of being “too sensitive” when you
desperately try to defend yourself against her baseless
accusations. (GASLIGHTING)

This narcissistic woman with a narcissistic personality
will create chaos and turmoil on a regular basis
(and on purpose) to keep you in a heightened state of
anxiety. (GASLIGHTING)

She will do this even when things are good – and especially
when things are good – so that you least expect the kick
to the curb. This is why the silent treatment always
catches you off-guard, sending us into a tail-spin trying
to figure out what happened. Creating chaos is one of the
oldest narcissistic tactics in the book
(next to the silent treatment, of course)
and it is absolutely intentional. (GASLIGHTING)

This subtle creation of narcissistic chaos is a
passive-aggressive, manipulative type of behavior
and it gradually becomes an everyday occurrence when
we’re involved with a narcissistic partner.

The point of the behavior is to get us to react in the
exact way that we do. In fact, inducing these reactions
is a very
effective way to condition us to behave according to
Melmacneil’s pathological agenda!! (GASLIGHTING)

Narcissistic chaos could include starting a fight for no
reason at all, Kissing you good-by and then not calling
you for days, or accusing you of the very thing that you’re
fairly certain SHE is doing. (GASLIGHTING)

Creating passive-aggressive chaos is a powerful and effective
way for narcissists and sociopaths to manage down our
expectations of the relationship until we are perfectly
willing to accept nothing more than crumbs. (GASLIGHTING)

Melmacneil does NOT need you.
You could disappear tomorrow and Melmacneil
could not care less. Melmacneil is not prone to being
controlled in any way, shape or form.

She is a survivalist.

Melmacneil would live if the human race disappeared tomorrow.
Melmacneil is far too self serving and self absorbed not to.

And Melmacneil DOES NOT need you in some
round about way either. You’re mistaking her for someone who
gives a sh*t or has feelings like your own.
Trust me SHE DOES NOT.

Melmacneil will simply USE YOU because you’re nearby,
you’re convenient or she is bored and desires something
you possess. Otherwise she will go on without you just fine.
Because, again, Melmacneil DOES NOT possess feelings like
you do.

She is a Narcissist.
She’s a selfish woman and does not care about you.
She’s a selfish woman and NEVER WILL care about you.

Melissa Malerba is NOT Kind

Melissa Malerba is NOT Loving

Melissa Malerba is NOT Considerate

Melissa Malerba is NOT Supportive

Melissa Malerba is NOT Generous

Melissa Malerba is NOT Encouraging

Melissa Malerba does NOT have ANY sense of humor

How to deal with “gaslighting”

Look up these terms to learn more:
Forms of narcissistic control
Narcissist Puppeteer
Narcissistic Chaos
Narcissist’s Control/Validate Tactic
Narcissistic ploys and tactics
Emotional manipulation
Trauma Bonding

‘Arousal-jag’ reinforcement is all about her giving a little and
then taking it away over and over and over in well timed
intervals.

Narcissists do this all the time
(disappearing/reappearing, silence/chaos) whereby creating
an illusion of twisted excitement that reinforces the traumatic
bond between us and them.

And to be clear, the narcissist feels a connection here as well
only her connection is to the excitement alone and not to us.

This is why a narcissist always has multiple partners because
it doubles and triples her excitement factor. The fact that we
– as her victims – become so attached to the chaos that we’ll
eagerly await
her return to scoop us up and throw us away again
is quite an added bonus!

The excitement before the trauma (of betrayal and neglect) is
created during the devalue stage…that point in time right before
a discard when our intuition has already told us she’s going to
leave based on her behaviors. It’s that knot-in-the-stomach
feeling, the overwhelming urge to call her phone 100 times,
the torment of cognitive dissonance…. it’s the hours spent
scouring the internet looking for clues…it’s the feeling we
get from the chaos that a narcissist ALWAYS creates right before
the silence. Like it or not, we become highly addicted to her
narcissistic behaviors and all of the nonsense that goes with
it… and we miss it like a motherf*cker when it’s gone…when,
suddenly, the narcissist goes silent.
We long for the connection – as manipulated and fabricated as it
is – until we can barely breathe. Then, right before we either
kill ourselves or come to our senses, in swoops the narcissist
once again – like a Phoenix rising – to give us the second
reinforcement: the peace of surrender that happens afterwards.
Her reappearance is meticulously timed for maximum effect and
usually follows a silent treatment that has lasted just a tad
longer than the one before. The narcissist is conditioning us
to accept less and less so she can get away with more each time
she vanishes.

DANGEROUS WOMAN – STAY AWAY – DANGER! DANGER! DANGER!

Melissa Malerba
a/k/a
Melissa MacNeil
DOB 3-2-1972
Revere MA
Tewksbury MA
Lowell MA

STAY AWAY – DANGEROUS WOMAN –

77 thoughts on “Melissa Malerba MacNeil

  1. If you speak to Melissa Malerba MacNeil online or on the phone, or in person [DON’T DO THAT!!!]
    Watch for THESE SIGNS – SHE WILL PROVE TO YOU ON HER OWN THAT SHE IS A NARCISSIST.

    “Spot a Narcissist or a Psychopath on Your First Date”
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYP9JShyXAc

    SHE’S NEVER SATISFIED — NO MATTER WHAT SHE GETS –
    AND SHE WILL TAKE EVERYTHING AND GIVE NOTHING IN RETURN – EVER.

  2. More Lies Melissa Malerba Tells REGULARLY:
    LIE: She NEVER HAS ANY MONEY (so she SAYS) yet she goes tanning AT LEAST three times a week.
    LIE: She NEVER HAS ANY MONEY (so she SAYS) yet she gets false eyelash extensions for $150 every two months,
    LIE: She NEVER HAS ANY MONEY (so she SAYS) yet she also gets false eyelash extension maintenance fills at
    $60 every two weeks.
    Melissa Malerba MacNeil says she has to get those lash extensions because her lashes are thin from RADIATION TREATMENT (for “breast cancer” she **CLAIMS** to have had FOUR YEARS AGO. (No proof of that whatsoever – just a sympathy ploy on her part is a safe bet. Narcissists often claim serious illness to get sympathy )

    Regardless, THAT IS ALSO A LIE, Breast Cancer Radiation does NOT cause hair loss, except maybe from the armpits.

    ” It [breast cancer radiation treatment] will not cause you to lose your eyebrows, eyelashes, or hair on your head. ”
    – Lydia Komarnicky, M.D.
    Source: http://www.breastcancer.org/treatment/radiation/ask_expert/question_17

  3. The Following Actions are Associated with Gaslighting

    Melissa Malerba does ALL of these Gaslighting methods to her victims:

    1. Withholding:
    Melissa Malerba MacNeil pretends not to understand you or flat out refuses to listen to you.
    She might say things like “I don’t want to hear this again.”

    2. Countering:
    Melissa Malerba MacNeil questions your memory, even if you’re sure you know what happened. She says “You’re wrong, you never remember things correctly,” or “You’re imagining things, that never happened.”

    3. Blocking/Diverting:
    Melissa Malerba MacNeil changes the subject to silence you or questions how you’re feeling, saying things like “Is that another crazy idea you got from your (friend/family member)?”

    4. Trivializing:
    Melissa Malerba MacNeil makes your needs or feelings seem unimportant, constantly telling you that you’re too sensitive, or that “You’re going to get angry over a little thing like that?”

    5. Forgetting/Denying:
    Melissa Malerba MacNeil pretends to have forgotten what really happened, or flat out denies promises he or she made to you. He/she will say things like, “I don’t know what you’re talking about” or “You’re just making things up.”

    If you identify with these 10 signs, you’re most likely being gaslighted.

    You are constantly second-guessing yourself.
    You start to question if you are too sensitive.
    You often feel confused and have a hard time making simple decisions.
    You find yourself constantly apologizing.
    You can’t understand why you’re so unhappy.
    You often make excuses for your partner’s behavior.
    You feel like you can’t do anything right.
    You often feel like you aren’t good enough for others.
    You have the sense that you used to be a more confident, relaxed and happy person.
    You withhold information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain things.

    Melissa Malerba MacNeil will also CONSTANTLY PROJECT HER CHARACTER FLAWS ONTO YOU!!!
    Have you ever done any of these things to another person you were in a relationship with?
    BEING SNIDE
    JEALOUS
    F*CKING WITH SOMEONE’S MIND
    LYING

    Well, Melissa will not only do all these things to YOU….
    she will accuse YOU of doing them to HER!

    You’ll see… if you are foolish enough to get involved.

  4. Here are the 20 diversionary tactics Melissa Malerba MacNeil
    and all toxic people use to silence and degrade YOU.

    Melissa Malerba MacNeil is a DANGEROUS, TOXIC, NARCISSISTIC WOMAN and she will use ALL OF THESE METHODS to silence and degrade YOU.

    1. Gaslighting.
    Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that can be described in different variations of three words: “That didn’t happen,” “You imagined it,” and “Are you crazy?” Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.
    When a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath gaslights you, you may be prone to gaslighting yourself as a way to reconcile the cognitive dissonance that might arise. Two conflicting beliefs battle it out: is this person right or can I trust what I experienced? A manipulative person will convince you that the former is an inevitable truth while the latter is a sign of dysfunction on your end.
    In order to resist gaslighting, it’s important to ground yourself in your own reality – sometimes writing things down as they happened, telling a friend or reiterating your experience to a support network can help to counteract the gaslighting effect. The power of having a validating community is that it can redirect you from the distorted reality of a malignant person and back to your own inner guidance.
    2. Projection.
    One sure sign of toxicity is when a person is chronically unwilling to see his or her own shortcomings and uses everything in their power to avoid being held accountable for them. This is known as projection. Projection is a defense mechanism used to displace responsibility of one’s negative behavior and traits by attributing them to someone else. It ultimately acts as a digression that avoids ownership and accountability.
    While we all engage in projection to some extent, according to Narcissistic Personality clinical expert Dr. Martinez-Lewi, the projections of a narcissist are often psychologically abusive. Rather than acknowledge their own flaws, imperfections and wrongdoings, malignant narcissists and sociopaths opt to dump their own traits on their unsuspecting suspects in a way that is painful and excessively cruel. Instead of admitting that self-improvement may be in order, they would prefer that their victims take responsibility for their behavior and feel ashamed of themselves. This is a way for a narcissist to project any toxic shame they have about themselves onto another.
    For example, a person who engages in pathological lying may accuse their partner of fibbing; a needy spouse may call their husband “clingy” in an attempt to depict them as the one who is dependent; a rude employee may call their boss ineffective in an effort to escape the truth about their own productivity.
    Narcissistic abusers love to play the “blameshifting game.” Objectives of the game: they win, you lose, and you or the world at large is blamed for everything that’s wrong with them. This way, you get to babysit their fragile ego while you’re thrust into a sea of self-doubt. Fun, right?
    Solution? Don’t “project” your own sense of compassion or empathy onto a toxic person and don’t own any of the toxic person’s projections either. As manipulation expert and author Dr. George Simon (2010) notes in his book In Sheep’s Clothing, projecting our own conscience and value system onto others has the potential consequence of being met with further exploitation.
    Narcissists on the extreme end of the spectrum usually have no interest in self-insight or change. It’s important to cut ties and end interactions with toxic people as soon as possible so you can get centered in your own reality and validate your own identity. You don’t have to live in someone else’s cesspool of dysfunction.
    3. Nonsensical conversations from hell.
    If you think you’re going to have a thoughtful discussion with someone who is toxic, be prepared for epic mindfuckery rather than conversational mindfulness.
    Malignant narcissists and sociopaths use word salad, circular conversations, ad hominem arguments, projection and gaslighting to disorient you and get you off track should you ever disagree with them or challenge them in any way. They do this in order to discredit, confuse and frustrate you, distract you from the main problem and make you feel guilty for being a human being with actual thoughts and feelings that might differ from their own. In their eyes, you are the problem if you happen to exist.
    Spend even ten minutes arguing with a toxic narcissist and you’ll find yourself wondering how the argument even began at all. You simply disagreed with them about their absurd claim that the sky is red and now your entire childhood, family, friends, career and lifestyle choices have come under attack. That is because your disagreement picked at their false belief that they are omnipotent and omniscient, resulting in a narcissistic injury.
    Remember: toxic people don’t argue with you, they essentially argue with themselves and you become privy to their long, draining monologues. They thrive off the drama and they live for it. Each and every time you attempt to provide a point that counters their ridiculous assertions, you feed them supply. Don’t feed the narcissists supply – rather, supply yourself with the confirmation that their abusive behavior is the problem, not you. Cut the interaction short as soon as you anticipate it escalating and use your energy on some decadent self-care instead.
    4. Blanket statements and generalizations.
    Malignant narcissists aren’t always intellectual masterminds – many of them are intellectually lazy. Rather than taking the time to carefully consider a different perspective, they generalize anything and everything you say, making blanket statements that don’t acknowledge the nuances in your argument or take into account the multiple perspectives you’ve paid homage to. Better yet, why not put a label on you that dismisses your perspective altogether?
    On a larger scale, generalizations and blanket statements invalidate experiences that don’t fit in the unsupported assumptions, schemas and stereotypes of society; they are also used to maintain the status quo. This form of digression exaggerates one perspective to the point where a social justice issue can become completely obscured. For example, rape accusations against well-liked figures are often met with the reminder that there are false reports of rape that occur. While those do occur, they are rare, and in this case, the actions of one become labeled the behavior of the majority while the specific report itself remains unaddressed.
    These everyday microaggressions also happen in toxic relationships. If you bring up to a narcissistic abuser that their behavior is unacceptable for example, they will often make blanket generalizations about your hypersensitivity or make a generalization such as, “You are never satisfied,” or “You’re always too sensitive” rather than addressing the real issues at hand. It’s possible that you are oversensitive at times, but it is also possible that the abuser is also insensitive and cruel the majority of the time.
    Hold onto your truth and resist generalizing statements by realizing that they are in fact forms of black and white illogical thinking. Toxic people wielding blanket statements do not represent the full richness of experience – they represent the limited one of their singular experience and overinflated sense of self.
    5. Deliberately misrepresenting your thoughts and feelings to the point of absurdity.
    In the hands of a malignant narcissist or sociopath, your differing opinions, legitimate emotions and lived experiences get translated into character flaws and evidence of your irrationality.
    Narcissists weave tall tales to reframe what you’re actually saying as a way to make your opinions look absurd or heinous. Let’s say you bring up the fact that you’re unhappy with the way a toxic friend is speaking to you. In response, he or she may put words in your mouth, saying, “Oh, so now you’re perfect?” or “So I am a bad person, huh?” when you’ve done nothing but express your feelings. This enables them to invalidate your right to have thoughts and emotions about their inappropriate behavior and instills in you a sense of guilt when you attempt to establish boundaries.
    This is also a popular form of diversion and cognitive distortion that is known as “mind reading.” Toxic people often presume they know what you’re thinking and feeling. They chronically jump to conclusions based on their own triggers rather than stepping back to evaluate the situation mindfully. They act accordingly based on their own delusions and fallacies and make no apologies for the harm they cause as a result. Notorious for putting words in your mouth, they depict you as having an intention or outlandish viewpoint you didn’t possess. They accuse you of thinking of them as toxic – even before you’ve gotten the chance to call them out on their behavior – and this also serves as a form of preemptive defense.
    Simply stating, “I never said that,” and walking away should the person continue to accuse you of doing or saying something you didn’t can help to set a firm boundary in this type of interaction. So long as the toxic person can blameshift and digress from their own behavior, they have succeeded in convincing you that you should be “shamed” for giving them any sort of realistic feedback.
    6. Nitpicking and moving the goal posts.
    The difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism is the presence of a personal attack and impossible standards. These so-called “critics” often don’t want to help you improve, they just want to nitpick, pull you down and scapegoat you in any way they can. Abusive narcissists and sociopaths employ a logical fallacy known as “moving the goalposts” in order to ensure that they have every reason to be perpetually dissatisfied with you. This is when, even after you’ve provided all the evidence in the world to validate your argument or taken an action to meet their request, they set up another expectation of you or demand more proof.
    Do you have a successful career? The narcissist will then start to pick on why you aren’t a multi-millionaire yet. Did you already fulfill their need to be excessively catered to? Now it’s time to prove that you can also remain “independent.” The goal posts will perpetually change and may not even be related to each other; they don’t have any other point besides making you vie for the narcissist’s approval and validation.
    By raising the expectations higher and higher each time or switching them completely, highly manipulative and toxic people are able to instill in you a pervasive sense of unworthiness and of never feeling quite “enough.” By pointing out one irrelevant fact or one thing you did wrong and developing a hyperfocus on it, narcissists get to divert from your strengths and pull you into obsessing over any flaws or weaknesses instead. They get you thinking about the next expectation of theirs you’re going to have to meet – until eventually you’ve bent over backwards trying to fulfill their every need – only to realize it didn’t change the horrific way they treated you.
    Don’t get sucked into nitpicking and changing goal posts – if someone chooses to rehash an irrelevant point over and over again to the point where they aren’t acknowledging the work you’ve done to validate your point or satisfy them, their motive isn’t to better understand. It’s to further provoke you into feeling as if you have to constantly prove yourself. Validate and approve of yourself. Know that you are enough and you don’t have to be made to feel constantly deficient or unworthy in some way.
    7. Changing the subject to evade accountability.
    This type of tactic is what I like to call the “What about me?” syndrome. It is a literal digression from the actual topic that works to redirect attention to a different issue altogether. Narcissists don’t want you to be on the topic of holding them accountable for anything, so they will reroute discussions to benefit them. Complaining about their neglectful parenting? They’ll point out a mistake you committed seven years ago. This type of diversion has no limits in terms of time or subject content, and often begins with a sentence like “What about the time when…”
    On a macrolevel, these diversions work to derail discussions that challenge the status quo. A discussion about gay rights, for example, may be derailed quickly by someone who brings in another social justice issue just to distract people from the main argument.
    As Tara Moss, author of Speaking Out: A 21st Century Handbook for Women and Girls, notes, specificity is needed in order to resolve and address issues appropriately – that doesn’t mean that the issues that are being brought up don’t matter, it just means that the specific time and place may not be the best context to discuss them.
    Don’t be derailed – if someone pulls a switcheroo on you, you can exercise what I call the “broken record” method and continue stating the facts without giving in to their distractions. Redirect their redirection by saying, “That’s not what I am talking about. Let’s stay focused on the real issue.” If they’re not interested, disengage and spend your energy on something more constructive – like not having a debate with someone who has the mental age of a toddler.
    8. Covert and overt threats.
    Narcissistic abusers and otherwise toxic people feel very threatened when their excessive sense of entitlement, false sense of superiority and grandiose sense of self are challenged in any way. They are prone to making unreasonable demands on others – while punishing you for not living up to their impossible to reach expectations.
    Rather than tackle disagreements or compromises maturely, they set out to divert you from your right to have your own identity and perspective by attempting to instill fear in you about the consequences of disagreeing or complying with their demands. To them, any challenge results in an ultimatum and “do this or I’ll do that” becomes their daily mantra.
    If someone’s reaction to you setting boundaries or having a differing opinion from your own is to threaten you into submission, whether it’s a thinly veiled threat or an overt admission of what they plan to do, this is a red flag of someone who has a high degree of entitlement and has no plans of compromising. Take threats seriously and show the narcissist you mean business; document threats and report them whenever possible and legally feasible.
    9. Name-calling.
    Narcissists preemptively blow anything they perceive as a threat to their superiority out of proportion. In their world, only they can ever be right and anyone who dares to say otherwise creates a narcissistic injury that results in narcissistic rage. As Mark Goulston, M.D. asserts, narcissistic rage does not result from low self-esteem but rather a high sense of entitlement and false sense of superiority.
    The lowest of the low resort to narcissistic rage in the form of name-calling when they can’t think of a better way to manipulate your opinion or micromanage your emotions. Name-calling is a quick and easy way to put you down, degrade you and insult your intelligence, appearance or behavior while invalidating your right to be a separate person with a right to his or her perspective.
    Name-calling can also be used to criticize your beliefs, opinions and insights. A well-researched perspective or informed opinion suddenly becomes “silly” or “idiotic” in the hands of a malignant narcissist or sociopath who feels threatened by it and cannot make a respectful, convincing rebuttal. Rather than target your argument, they target you as a person and seek to undermine your credibility and intelligence in any way they possibly can. It’s important to end any interaction that consists of name-calling and communicate that you won’t tolerate it. Don’t internalize it: realize that they are resorting to name-calling because they are deficient in higher level methods.

    10. Destructive conditioning.
    Toxic people condition you to associate your strengths, talents, and happy memories with abuse, frustration and disrespect. They do this by sneaking in covert and overt put-downs about the qualities and traits they once idealized as well as sabotaging your goals, ruining celebrations, vacations and holidays. They may even isolate you from your friends and family and make you financially dependent upon them. Like Pavlov’s dogs, you’re essentially “trained” over time to become afraid of doing the very things that once made your life fulfilling.
    Narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths and otherwise toxic people do this because they wish to divert attention back to themselves and how you’re going to please them. If there is anything outside of them that may threaten their control over your life, they seek to destroy it. They need to be the center of attention at all times. In the idealization phase, you were once the center of a narcissist’s world – now the narcissist becomes the center of yours.
    Narcissists are also naturally pathologically envious and don’t want anything to come in between them and their influence over you. Your happiness represents everything they feel they cannot have in their emotionally shallow lives. After all, if you learn that you can get validation, respect and love from other sources besides the toxic person, what’s to keep you from leaving them? To toxic people, a little conditioning can go a long way to keep you walking on eggshells and falling just short of your big dreams.
    11. Smear campaigns and stalking.
    When toxic types can’t control the way you see yourself, they start to control how others see you; they play the martyr while you’re labeled the toxic one. A smear campaign is a preemptive strike to sabotage your reputation and slander your name so that you won’t have a support network to fall back on lest you decide to detach and cut ties with this toxic person. They may even stalk and harass you or the people you know as a way to supposedly “expose” the truth about you; this exposure acts as a way to hide their own abusive behavior while projecting it onto you.
    Some smear campaigns can even work to pit two people or two groups against each other. A victim in an abusive relationship with a narcissist often doesn’t know what’s being said about them during the relationship, but they eventually find out the falsehoods shortly after they’ve been discarded.
    Toxic people will gossip behind your back (and in front of your face), slander you to your loved ones or their loved ones, create stories that depict you as the aggressor while they play the victim, and claim that you engaged in the same behaviors that they are afraid you will accuse them of engaging in. They will also methodically, covertly and deliberately abuse you so they can use your reactions as a way to prove that they are the so-called “victims” of your abuse.
    The best way to handle a smear campaign is to stay mindful of your reactions and stick to the facts. This is especially pertinent for high-conflict divorces with narcissists who may use your reactions to their provocations against you. Document any form of harassment, cyberbullying or stalking incidents and always speak to your narcissist through a lawyer whenever possible. You may wish to take legal action if you feel the stalking and harassment is getting out of control; finding a lawyer who is well-versed in Narcissistic Personality Disorder is crucial if that’s the case. Your character and integrity will speak for itself when the narcissist’s false mask begins to slip.
    12. Love-bombing and devaluation.
    Toxic people put you through an idealization phase until you’re sufficiently hooked and invested in beginning a friendship or relationship with you. Then, they begin to devalue you while insulting the very things they admired in the first place. Another variation of this is when a toxic individual puts you on a pedestal while aggressively devaluing and attacking someone else who threatens their sense of superiority.
    Narcissistic abusers do this all the time – they devalue their exes to their new partners, and eventually the new partner starts to receive the same sort of mistreatment as the narcissist’s ex-partner. Ultimately what will happen is that you will also be on the receiving end of the same abuse. You will one day be the ex-partner they degrade to their new source of supply. You just don’t know it yet. That’s why it’s important to stay mindful of the love-bombing technique whenever you witness behavior that doesn’t align with the saccharine sweetness a narcissist subjects you to.
    As life coach Wendy Powell suggests, slowing things down with people you suspect may be toxic is an important way of combating the love-bombing technique. Be wary of the fact that how a person treats or speaks about someone else could potentially translate into the way they will treat you in the future.
    13. Preemptive defense.
    When someone stresses the fact that they are a “nice guy” or girl, that you should “trust them” right away or emphasizes their credibility without any provocation from you whatsoever, be wary.
    Toxic and abusive people overstate their ability to be kind and compassionate. They often tell you that you should “trust” them without first building a solid foundation of trust. They may “perform” a high level of sympathy and empathy at the beginning of your relationship to dupe you, only to unveil their false mask later on. When you see their false mask begins to slip periodically during the devaluation phase of the abuse cycle, the true self is revealed to be terrifyingly cold, callous and contemptuous.
    Genuinely nice people rarely have to persistently show off their positive qualities – they exude their warmth more than they talk about it and they know that actions speak volumes more than mere words. They know that trust and respect is a two-way street that requires reciprocity, not repetition.
    To counter a preemptive defense, reevaluate why a person may be emphasizing their good qualities. Is it because they think you don’t trust them, or because they know you shouldn’t? Trust actions more than empty words and see how someone’s actions communicate who they are, not who they say they are.
    14. Triangulation.
    Bringing in the opinion, perspective or suggested threat of another person into the dynamic of an interaction is known as “triangulation.” Often used to validate the toxic person’s abuse while invalidating the victim’s reactions to abuse, triangulation can also work to manufacture love triangles that leave you feeling unhinged and insecure.
    Malignant narcissists love to triangulate their significant other with strangers, co-workers, ex-partners, friends and even family members in order to evoke jealousy and uncertainty in you. They also use the opinions of others to validate their point of view.
    This is a diversionary tactic meant to pull your attention away from their abusive behavior and into a false image of them as a desirable, sought after person. It also leaves you questioning yourself – if Mary did agree with Tom, doesn’t that mean that you must be wrong? The truth is, narcissists love to “report back” falsehoods about others say about you, when in fact, they are the ones smearing you.
    To resist triangulation tactics, realize that whoever the narcissist is triangulating with is also being triangulated by your relationship with the narcissist as well. Everyone is essentially being played by this one person. Reverse “triangulate” the narcissist by gaining support from a third party that is not under the narcissist’s influence – and also by seeking your own validation.
    15. Bait and feign innocence.
    Toxic individuals lure you into a false sense of security simply to have a platform to showcase their cruelty. Baiting you into a mindless, chaotic argument can escalate into a showdown rather quickly with someone who doesn’t know the meaning of respect. A simple disagreement may bait you into responding politely initially, until it becomes clear that the person has a malicious motive of tearing you down.
    By “baiting” you with a seemingly innocuous comment disguised as a rational one, they can then begin to play with you. Remember: narcissistic abusers have learned about your insecurities, the unsettling catchphrases that interrupt your confidence, and the disturbing topics that reenact your wounds – and they use this knowledge maliciously to provoke you. After you’ve fallen for it, hook line and sinker, they’ll stand back and innocently ask whether you’re “okay” and talk about how they didn’t “mean” to agitate you. This faux innocence works to catch you off guard and make you believe that they truly didn’t intend to hurt you, until it happens so often you can’t deny the reality of their malice any longer.
    It helps to realize when you’re being baited so you can avoid engaging altogether. Provocative statements, name-calling, hurtful accusations or unsupported generalizations, for example, are common baiting tactics. Your gut instinct can also tell you when you’re being baited – if you feel “off” about a certain comment and continue to feel this way even after it has been expanded on, that’s a sign you may need to take some space to reevaluate the situation before choosing to respond.
    16. Boundary testing and hoovering.
    Narcissists, sociopaths and otherwise toxic people continually try and test your boundaries to see which ones they can trespass. The more violations they’re able to commit without consequences, the more they’ll push the envelope.
    That’s why survivors of emotional as well as physical abuse often experience even more severe incidents of abuse each and every time they go back to their abusers.
    Abusers tend to “hoover” their victims back in with sweet promises, fake remorse and empty words of how they are going to change, only to abuse their victims even more horrifically. In the abuser’s sick mind, this boundary testing serves as a punishment for standing up to the abuse and also for being going back to it. When narcissists try to press the emotional reset button, reinforce your boundaries even more strongly rather than backtracking on them.
    Remember – highly manipulative people don’t respond to empathy or compassion. They respond to consequences.
    17. Aggressive jabs disguised as jokes.
    Covert narcissists enjoy making malicious remarks at your expense. These are usually dressed up as “just jokes” so that they can get away with saying appalling things while still maintaining an innocent, cool demeanor. Yet any time you are outraged at an insensitive, harsh remark, you are accused of having no sense of humor. This is a tactic frequently used in verbal abuse.
    The contemptuous smirk and sadistic gleam in their eyes gives it away, however – like a predator that plays with its food, a toxic person gains pleasure from hurting you and being able to get away with it. After all, it’s just a joke, right? Wrong. It’s a way to gaslight you into thinking their abuse is a joke – a way to divert from their cruelty and onto your perceived sensitivity. It is important that when this happens, you stand up for yourself and make it clear that you won’t tolerate this type of behavior.
    Calling out manipulative people on their covert put-downs may result in further gaslighting from the abuser but maintain your stance that their behavior is not okay and end the interaction immediately if you have to.
    18. Condescending sarcasm and patronizing tone.
    Belittling and degrading a person is a toxic person’s forte and their tone of voice is only one tool in their toolbox. Sarcasm can be a fun mode of communication when both parties are engaged, but narcissists use it chronically as a way to manipulate you and degrade you. If you in any way react to it, you must be “too sensitive.”
    Forget that the toxic person constantly has temper tantrums every time their big bad ego is faced with realistic feedback – the victim is the hypersensitive one, apparently. So long as you’re treated like a child and constantly challenged for expressing yourself, you’ll start to develop a sense of hypervigilance about voicing your thoughts and opinions without reprimand. This self-censorship enables the abuser to put in less work in silencing you, because you begin to silence yourself.
    Whenever you are met with a condescending demeanor or tone, call it out firmly and assertively. You don’t deserve to be spoken down to like a child – nor should you ever silence yourself to meet the expectation of someone else’s superiority complex.
    19. Shaming.
    “You should be ashamed of yourself” is a favorite saying of toxic people. Though it can be used by someone who is non-toxic, in the realm of the narcissist or sociopath, shaming is an effective method that targets any behavior or belief that might challenge a toxic person’s power. It can also be used to destroy and whittle away at a victim’s self-esteem: if a victim dares to be proud of something, shaming the victim for that specific trait, quality or accomplishment can serve to diminish their sense of self and stifle any pride they may have.
    Malignant narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths enjoy using your own wounds against you – so they will even shame you about any abuse or injustice you’ve suffered in your lifetime as a way to retraumatize you. Were you a childhood abuse survivor? A malignant narcissist or sociopath will claim that you must’ve done something to deserve it, or brag about their own happy childhood as a way to make you feel deficient and unworthy. What better way to injure you, after all, than to pick at the original wound? As surgeons of madness, they seek to exacerbate wounds, not help heal them.
    If you suspect you’re dealing with a toxic person, avoid revealing any of your vulnerabilities or past traumas. Until they’ve proven their character to you, there is no point disclosing information that could be potentially used against you.
    20. Control.
    Most importantly, toxic abusers love to maintain control in whatever way they can. They isolate you, maintain control over your finances and social networks, and micromanage every facet of your life. Yet the most powerful mechanism they have for control is toying with your emotions.
    That’s why abusive narcissists and sociopaths manufacture situations of conflict out of thin air to keep you feeling off center and off balanced. That’s why they chronically engage in disagreements about irrelevant things and rage over perceived slights. That’s why they emotionally withdraw, only to re-idealize you once they start to lose control. That’s why they vacillate between their false self and their true self, so you never get a sense of psychological safety or certainty about who your partner truly is.
    The more power they have over your emotions, the less likely you’ll trust your own reality and the truth about the abuse you’re enduring. Knowing the manipulative tactics and how they work to erode your sense of self can arm you with the knowledge of what you’re facing and at the very least, develop a plan to regain control over your own life and away from toxic people.

    Melissa Malerba MacNeil 9 (mmacneil1, melmacne) is a DANGEROUS, TOXIC, NARCISSISTIC WOMAN and she will use ALL OF THESE METHODS to silence and degrade YOU.

  5. Are YOU a genuinely NICE GUY???
    YOU WILL BE Melissa Malerba’s NEXT TARGET!
    GET AWAY NOW!!!!

    THE KINDS OF GUYS MELISSA MALERBA SEEKS OUT TO PREY UPON ARE NICE, CARING, GIVING MEN.

    WATCH THIS VIDEO WARNING!!!
    Dangerous Women – Are you at risk?
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VWXewlNrZsg

    Han Lockhart:
    “All I can say to the rest of you fellas who are vulnerable is LISTEN AND DO AS THIS MAN WARNS.
    He`s right.”

    Han Lockhart:
    “I was indeed a risk target. Once I never believed a woman could be bad, it`s how I was bought up to view woman; as intrinsically good. My father never went into details, excpet to say `marry a christian woman` which didn`t really help, because I`d think `Why?`.
    However, the dangerous woman I met turned me into a man who
    no longer trusts women in general.
    A pity I never saw this video before I met her.”

  6. No matter what you say or do, it will get twisted and used against you in some way.
    You will be blamed and criticized for everything that is wrong
    – EVEN WHEN THE CRITICISM DOESN’T MAKE SENSE TO YOU –
    and THAT will make YOU question if you actually ARE the unreasonable
    one that she constantly tells you that you are
    [You aren’t unreasonable – this is how she abusively manipulates your mind into thinking you are]

    Through this abusive manipulation, She will make you feel and experience high flying levels of joy, and minutes later, PLUMMETING DOWNWARD AND CRASHING into a twisted wreck of despair.

    Courtney Love was a Narcissist. Kurt Cobain was Co Dependent.
    Look what Courtney did to Kurt.
    More importantly, look what Kurt did to HIMSELF after living with Courtney.

    Melissa will do THAT to YOU.

    Consider this question:
    How come a BEAUTIFUL WOMAN like her is SINGLE at her age???
    Well… Her first husband LEFT her within 3 months.
    The second one left within 7 years. (she’ll tell you it was 16 years, but it wasn’t even HALF that long)

    THIS MAN SPELLS IT OUT PERFECTLY – WATCH!!!!
    Personality disorders of a dangerous woman
    https://youtu.be/wZHKCbHGlS0?t=322

  7. YOU will NOT be “THE GUY” who “Fixes” Melissa Malerba.

    Melissa Malerba DOES NOT BELIEVE SHE HAS A PROBLEM.
    *YOU* are her problem in her eyes and in her mind.
    She will CRUSH YOU without the tiniest molecule of pity or remorse.

    She will NOT seek help for herself.
    I’ve known many types of women like her.
    Even if she does agree to go to counseling, it will be “couples counseling”
    and during which she will TURN ON THE TEARS and only talk about how terrible YOU are,
    even though you may be the kindest and sweetest man in the world!!!

    YOU CAN’T FIX HER – and she will DESTROY YOU if you stick around long enough to try.

    No outsiders will BELIEVE YOU when you tell them how horribly abusive and manipulative she is to you,
    because SHE KEEPS A DIFFERENT MASK ON TO SHOW ALL OUTSIDERS.
    THE ABUSE, DEAR BROTHER, IS ALL FOR YOU, AND YOU ALONE.

    And when either you give up and move on, or she gets tired of you TRYING TO HELP,
    she will say “We can be friends.” – Meaning she will keep you on a string to call on when she wants to –
    She has LOTS of guys like that already… You’ll just be added to her list.

  8. No outsiders will BELIEVE YOU when you tell them how horribly abusive and manipulative she is to you,
    because SHE KEEPS A DIFFERENT MASK ON TO SHOW ALL OUTSIDERS.
    THE ABUSE, DEAR BROTHER, IS ALL FOR YOU, AND YOU ALONE.

  9. There are 7 things that terrify narcissists to their core, and they can be very well used to determine if you’re around one.
    1. Abandonment and rejection
    They just can’t stand being rejected! Their ego will be stabbed right in their weak spot if you leave or reject them. In fact, they fly into rages and punish and threaten you if you threaten to leave them!

    To reject a narcissist means you are rejecting the false self they have so carefully constructed to impress you. When you reject them they are forced to confront their emptiness and believe me, nothing scares them more than that. They will fight tooth and nail to avoid it, and if you stand in the way, they have to destroy you too…

    2. Being made fun of
    Nope! Narcissists have no sense of humor. They can even laugh when old people fall on the street (not offering any helping hand). Sure, they can laugh on your account, but when you make fun of them… oh my, you are dead.

    Lucky Otter writes on her blog: a few years ago on a forum I posted on, there was a man who became enraged when someone wrote “LOL” at a joke someone else made at his expense (the joke wasn’t very offensive), and from then on he gave both of them the silent treatment. They take themselves very, very seriously and are very, very sensitive. But that sensitivity doesn’t extend toward anyone but themselves. The reason they are so bothered by jokes at their expense and can’t laugh at themselves is because the self they present to the world is a false one that must be propped up and supported at all times by everyone else. To poke fun at a narcissist is to poke fun at a self that’s as empty inside as a puppet. It has no substance. It will fall to pieces and then the narcissist is forced to confront that terrifying emptiness that constantly haunts them.

    Read Also: The Narcissist You’re Dating Is Making You Jealous On Purpose…

    3. Being disrespected

    Hey, we get it. No one favors being disrespected, but narcissists are downright phobic about it! They worry abot it all the time and imagines slights and personal attacks even where they don’t exist.

    And again, it all boils down to the false self which he or she must constantly keep propped up. It’s your job to puff it up and inflate it constantly lest it collapse into a limp pile of flimsy rubber. Disrespecting a narcissist is like popping a hole in their balloon-self and they feel like they are going to die. To avoid this, a narcissist uses every defense mechanism they have in their arsenal–gaslighting, rages, silent treatment, lying, projection, denial, fabricating, and false affection–to keep you inflating their balloon-self so they don’t have to acknowledge the horror of recognizing they have lost their real one.

    4. Being ignored
    Ignoring a narcissist means giving them no supply at all, and without narcissistic supply, the narcissist dies a slow death, or believes they will. Some narcissists would rather be hated than ignored. Negative attention is still attention, and at least it provides acknowledgement that they still exist. When you ignore a narcissist, it’s as frightening to them as being killed. They’re no longer confident they exist without your attention.

    5. Exposure
    If you call out a narcissist on their abusive behavior, they will usually become very angry. Their anger might be expressed in rage or in more covert means such as the silent treatment or gaslighting you
    (read more about gaslighting HERE https://simplecapacity.com/2017/01/gaslighting-one-of-the-most-dangerous-forms-of-mental-manipulation-we-all-deal-with/ ).

    They DO NOT want to be accountable for the things they do to others… it means that they have to admit they are less than perfect, and you know what that means for a narcissist! It also means they have to acknowledge the humanity of someone else, which they aren’t capable of doing.

    Narcissists are all too aware of their imperfections, but only at the subconscious level, and the way they handle this is to project their own imperfections onto you. So a narcissist might tell you that YOU are the narcissistic one, or that YOU are the abuser. They’re also good at getting others to side against you, and those people become their flying monkeys. They will accuse you of doing things that they themselves have done and everyone believes them and not you. Beware!

    6. Loss of the trappings of youth and success
    As narcissists age, they often grow even more abusive (a very few may improve–but they probably weren’t high spectrum to begin with). That’s because aging means a loss of looks, career, health, possibly even a spouse (who provides a narcissist with supply), and in some cases even financial solvency. All these things are proof to a narcissist that they still have value and are still admired and respected.

    Somatic narcissists, who are most concerned with their health or physical appearance, have never developed other aspects of themselves that could be fallen back on when those things begin to go; that’s because the false self is a flimsy one-dimensional construct and is incapable of love, true attachment, friendship, and other things that the rest of us can fall back on when we’re old and not in such great physical shape or health anymore. If someone has spent their entire lives only concerned with their appearance, once that goes, what’s left?

    Cerebral narcissists, who are concerned with their intellectual ability or business acumen, may be able to hang onto those assets a bit longer, but eventually, their minds may begin to become less sharp or they may be forced to retire or reduce their hours working. Having to retire is a huge blow to a narcissist whose entire identity is tied up in his or her career and earning ability. What is left?

    In both cases, a narcissist experiences an almost total loss of supply and to avoid the ensuing depression, they lash out and attack others like angry dogs. That’s why old narcissists are so often cranky and mean. They’re also terrified of death, the last thing on the list that terrifies them.

    7. Death
    Every narcissist I’ve ever known lives in mortal terror of death. That’s because death is the ultimate loss of narcissistic supply. Death means complete annihilation of the ego and there’s nothing more horrifying to a narcissist than that because their ego is all they are. Personally, I think some also fear hell. They know on some deep level how badly they’ve treated and exploited others and think they might be held accountable for it in the afterlife. I’ve seen a lot of narcissists who suddenly become extremely religious in their old age. I think that’s because they think by being religious, they may be able to ward off any accountability after they die.

    READ AFTER: 11 Red Flags That Prove You Have Narcissistic Tendencies

  10. Classic example of
    LASHING OUT
    But notice the friend’s comment:
    The friend DOES NOT EVEN KNOW WHO MELISSA’S MAN IS
    – PROVOCATION –
    “Taking out the Garbage”
    – Kissing another man in front of her granddaughter-
    “I want more than what I am getting” – a friend asks “what do you want?”
    Melissa replies “If you only knew”
    IMPLYING THAT JUST KISSING A NEW MAN IS NOT ENOUGH FOR HER –
    AND SHE POSTS IT ION FB to FURTHER PROVOKE the ex she just broke up with –
    THEN SHAMING THE EX
    – wanting to be “SWEPT OFF HER FEET” implying everything her man had done for her WAS NOT GOOD ENOUGH.
    Then somehow the ex must’ve expressed his displeasure at her remarks ABOUT
    MALE ATTENTION AND WANTING MORE THAN SHE WAS GETTING
    THEN SHAMING THE EX AGAIN BY SAYING
    – “Jealousy – Keep it to yourself”

    WHY POST ALL THOSE THINGS PUBLICLY AND SHAME THE MAN WHO LOVES HER???

    BECAUSE MELISSA MALERBA IS A MANIPULATIVE NARCISSIST SOCIOPATH

  11. Melissa Malerba WEARS A NARCISSIST MASK –
    To the OUTSIDE WORLD, she is VERY SWEET
    But to MEN SHE IS INVOLVED WITH, SHE IS HORRIBLY ABUSIVE.

    Guys, she will Accuse YOU of everything that SHE DOES TO YOU.
    She will insult you, then call YOU abusive.
    She will tell you about how terrible the LAST GUY was looking for your sympathy –
    But DUDE… She is going to tell everyone else AND THE NEXT GUY, the EXACT SAME STORIES about YOU.
    That’s what she does.
    That’s ALL she does.
    AND SHE WILL NOT STOP, EVER.

    Think about this…. WHY is such a BEAUTIFUL WOMAN NOT MARRIED???
    Because SHE IS ABUSIVE and life with her is HELL.
    Husband # 1 left in 3 months.
    Husband # 2 left in a few years.

    7 Shocking Reasons Melissa Malerba Narcissist is Dangerous
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BURRAQA0XPU

  12. Melissa Malerba CANNOT BE “FIXED”
    Know that there really is no help for the people with this Histrionic/Narcissistic personality disorder
    She is stuck in her reptilian controlling brain causing chaos and drama wherever she goes.

    Don’t take it personally — they’re this way with everyone. It is not unique to you, regardless of what they may say to make you believe you’re the only person they have issues with. Your best bet is to limit the amount of time spent around these people and/or get them out of your life, black and white. You will never change them. The only person you can control is you.

  13. Melissa Malerba – Melissa MacNeil – mmacneil1 –
    FOR ANYONE THAT KNOWS HER AND THINKS SHE IS SO WONDERFUL….

    This is how she works:

    Why Narcissists Are So Cruel To Ones That Love Her, But Kind To Everyone Else
    When you start trying to explain the behavior of a narcissist to someone else,
    they will more often than not counter your words by saying …

    “But she is such a great woman!” You can see them thinking … “Why is he so ungrateful?”

    And of course many people outside of the family home love the narcissistic woman
    because she is so accommodating, hospitable and charming and is always there
    to help anyone in need.

    But, we know this is SO not our experience of them!

    Why are narcissists so unwilling, unmotivated and uncaring and even downright nasty
    with their nearest and dearest, yet sooooo accommodating and wonderful with everyone else?

    Why is it, to get them to do what you want to feel supported and cared for,
    means that the narcissist often turns on you mercilessly,
    yet she will drop everything for outsiders?

    Within this Thriver TV episode, you will find out!

    I know you may feel so alone and powerless in regard to how the narcissist is hoodwinking everyone and no-one sees the truth – but I promise you, just as I did – there is a way to heal all of this and then be validated and supported by life and people beyond measure.

    So … rather than think the narcissist’s “Street Angel / Home Devil”
    persona makes it all hopeless and you totally helpless …
    as I go through this deep dive into this topic in this video you will understand why it isn’t.

    Why Narcissists Are So Cruel To Ones That Love Her, But Kind To Everyone Else
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pApt11gcNPY

  14. Is your partner a narcissist? You may be surprised to learn that their behaviors aren’t the only indicator. More telling is how their actions and behaviors have affected YOU. Learn if you have the signs of Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome in this video.
    6 Strong Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3TY9XtOUUQA

  15. She calls herself a DIVA;

    What is a Diva?

    One definition is:
    A person who employs fraudulent or unscrupulous methods to obtain money; swindler

    Has she asked you for help with a 3,000 dollar copay for “alleged” hospital treatments yet?
    Has she asked you for money for Chinese food to be delivered to her yet?
    Has she asked you for money so she can get her hair done yet?

    Don’t worry – SHE WILL!
    All she wants is YOUR MONEY .
    SHE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU – even if she SAYS she does.

    SHE IS INCAPABLE OF LOVE.

    YOU, dear brother, are a source of money and attention that SERVES HER NEEDS ONLY.
    She will give you NOTHING but Pain, strife and heartbreak.

  16. Notice how Melissa Malerba MacNeil TELLS you what YOU are thinking?
    How she TELLS you what YOU are feeling?

    And when you deny that you are not thinking or feeling whatever the thought or feeling
    she is PROJECTING ONTO YOU, she responds with a “sing-song” toned
    “Uhhhhhhhhhhhhh-huh!………….. Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh-huh!”
    indicating SHE DOESN’T BELIEVE YOU!
    She will even say that YOU ARE LYING!

    The more you deny that, SHE WILL TELL YOU YOU ARE EVEN LYING TO YOURSELF!

    That is GASLIGHTING and she is BRAIN WASHING YOU, she is conditioning you!

    Then she will either end the relationship right then and there and tell you
    “Let’s just be friends” She will do this to you over and over and over and over and over.

    Look at the Narcissist – Prey Communication Circuit graphic below.

    Melissa Malerba MacNeil causes you to feel anxiety,
    Melissa Malerba MacNeil provokes you to anger
    Melissa Malerba MacNeil makes you heartbroken and depressed
    Then, and ONLY THEN does Melissa Malerba MacNeil actually feel GOOD,
    because she has successfully made YOU feel BADLY.

    Notice how quiet and content and relaxed she appears to be AFTER she has successfully
    pushed your buttons and pushed you to anger or sadness.
    LIKE THE EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE SHE IS…Melissa has fed off YOUR strong emotions and NOW she feels GOOD.

  17. “WHERE DID SHE GO????”

    Has Melissa Malerba MacNeil disappeared from you yet?
    Don’t worry…. SHE WILL!!! Many times!!!

    She will either start a fight with you for no reason …

    Or she will tell you that HER FEELINGS FOR YOU are too intense and that she is AFRAID and has to RUN.

    (NOTE: This is a LIE on SO many levels – The truth is – SHE HAS NO FEELINGS FOR YOU!
    SHE DOESN’T CARE ABOUT YOU…
    She actually HATES YOU!
    She hates you because she hates HERSELF because she CANNOT FEEL the wonderful
    emotions that YOU are capable of feeling!!!

    EVER WONDER WHERE MELISSA MALERBA MACNEIL GOES
    when she DISAPPEARS from your life for days, weeks or even months?

    She has gone back to her OTHER Narcissistic Supply.
    Because YOU are NOT the ONLY Narcissistic Supply she has.
    Melissa Malerba Macneil always has two or three Narcissistic Supply guys that she keeps
    in her rotation of Love Bombing, Devaluing, and Abandoning.

    While she is giving YOU the Silent Treatment, she is with one of the other guys repairing the damage
    from her last silent treatment abandonment that she put him through and beginning her Love Bombing, Devaluing, and Abandoning cycle with him. When she abandons that guy, or the one after him, THEN she will reach out to you again and start the Love Bombing, Devaluing, and Abandoning cycle with you.

    No, brother, if you are thinking right now,
    “NO WAY, DUDE!SHE SAYS SHE’S FAITHFUL!”
    “HELL, NO, MAN! SHE’S A ‘Woman of God’! She would NEVER do that to me!”

    Oh, yeah?
    Have you noticed how Melissa Malerba MacNeil ALWAYS HAS HER PHONE LOCKED?
    Have you noticed how Melissa Malerba MacNeil never leaves her phone behind when she leaves the room?
    Have you noticed how Melissa Malerba MacNeil always takes her phone into the bathroom with her?
    Because that’s Time for texting and SNAPCHAT and POF and Instagram and Facebook while you cannot see her.
    NOTE: The bathroom phone thing will NOT occur while you two are just “dating”
    but YOU WILL SEE MELISSA MALERBA MACNEIL doing it when you are spending more time with her, like maybe a weekend getaway (THAT YOU WILL BE PAYING FOR 100%, of course)

    Learn what the real truth about what Melissa Malerba MacNeil the
    narcissist is up to during their Silent Treatments….
    Watch this video
    “Why Narcissists Disappear (Hint: It’s NOT just the silent treatment):
    CLICK HERE
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_OqvEkZ583s

  18. 3 Common Evils of Narcissistic Women

    Melissa Malerba MacNeil (mmacneil1)
    Lowell MA – Nashua NH – Tewksbury MA – Revere MA
    D.O.B. 3-2-1972

    Men are narcissistically abused, too.
    And female narcissists like Melissa Malerba MacNeil have an advantage due to age-old societal leanings to view women as the gentler sex…in need of protection and extra support.

    Learn 3 Common Evils of Narcissistic Women in this video.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pbn5p2LcVW8

  19. What does she do? DEFLECT, DENY, ATTACK

    **Deflection is a conversational control tactic Melissa Malerba macNeil uses to frustrate and abuse YOU**

    Avoid ever engaging in ANY FORM of verbal conversation where Melissa Malerba MacNeil mmacneil1 strives to dominate and YOU are FORCED to LOSE TOUCH WITH REALITY simply so
    Melissa Malerba MacNeil mmacneil1, an egocentric and socially competitive, vertical thinker
    can avoid having to ACTUALLY ANSWER SANE, LEGITIMATE, RATIONAL QUESTIONS
    asked by a person like YOU who DESERVES to be given honest, non-time-wasting answers.

    People like Melissa Malerba MacNeil mmacneil1, who deflects questions proves
    ONE THING and ONE THING ONLY about their nature!

    That is that they are highly intelligent situational ABUSERS
    willing to LIE, STALL, DISTORT THE TRUTH,
    or outright gaslight whomever they are striving to AVOID ANSWERING.

    Any person like Melissa Malerba MacNeil mmacneil1 who deflects a direct question —
    especially those who take logical proofs WILDLY OFF TOPIC in order to
    DELIBERATELY CONFUSE OR FRUSTRATE an inquiring speaker [YOU]
    –has absolutely NO social or emotional RESPECT WHATSOEVER for the person [YOU]
    or peer group she is verbally assaulting and psychologically abusing.

    GET AWAY FROM HER NOW – OR SHE WILL DESTROY YOU

  20. How the narcissist Melissa Malerba MacNeil mmacneil1 WILL DESTROY your PHYSICAL HEALTH

    In this video I share my observations about the typical
    DESTRUCTIVE PHYSICAL HEALTH EFFECTS of being in a long-term relationship with a narcissist.
    Watch to learn more about the two main physical effects I have observed and
    how the NARCISSIST invariably uses these against their partner.

    WATCH: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mrDnVIkzOz0

  21. ***** GENTLEMEN ******
    **** WARNING! ****

    This is EXACTLY what Melissa Malerba MacNeil HAS DONE to EVERY SINGLE MAN IN HER LIFE.
    And this is EXACTLY what Melissa Malerba MacNeil WILL DO TO YOU….

    CLICK HERE and LISTEN for 35 seconds: https://youtu.be/rLCPDYt1wYk?t=428

    GET OUT NOW.
    GET AWAY TODAY.
    GO NO CONTACT.
    BLOCK HER NUMBER.
    BLOCK HER CALLS.
    BLOCK HER TEXTS.
    BLOCK HER EMAILS.

    Defend yourselves, gentlemen…
    Or she WILL DESTROY YOU.

  22. Narcissist Red Flags: Melissa Malerba MacNeil is Always Presenting Herself As A Victim

    A core trait of a covert narcissist is that they present themselves as a victim,
    especially when they themselves are victimizing another person – YOU!!!

    In the cause of a covert narcissist this trait is almost a smoking gun,
    not just a sign, of a covert narcissistic man or woman.

    Melissa Malerba MacNeil loves to turn the tables in order to deflect her
    true actions onto the people she victimizes [YOU],
    and even when something is benign, she will often still see herself as the victim.

    Being a victim gives Melissa Malerba MacNeil a cover,
    it produces narcissistic supply via empathy by other people
    that don’t know better (such as their flying monkeys!) and aids in Melissa Malerba MacNeil
    being able to uphold the “good” image illusion she has of herself.

    Narcissist Red Flags: They’re Always Presenting Themselves As A Victim
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlTcniIzBSA

  23. ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF HER NARCISSISTIC LYING
    MELISSA MALERBA MACNEIL MMACNEIL1 USES
    TRICK PHOTOGRAPHY ANGLES ON HER ONLINE
    POF and FACEBOOK PICTURES
    WHAT YOU SEE IS NOT WHAT SHE IS

  24. ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF HER NARCISSISTIC LYING
    MELISSA MALERBA MACNEIL MMACNEIL1 USES
    TRICK PHOTOGRAPHY ANGLES ON HER ONLINE
    POF and FACEBOOK PICTURES
    WHAT YOU SEE IS NOT WHAT SHE IS

  25. ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF HER NARCISSISTIC LYING
    MELISSA MALERBA MACNEIL MMACNEIL1 USES
    TRICK PHOTOGRAPHY ANGLES ON HER ONLINE
    POF and FACEBOOK PICTURES
    — WHAT YOU SEE IS NOT WHAT SHE IS —

  26. Melissa Malerba MacNeil (mmacneil1)
    Borderline Personality Co-Morbid with Narcissistic Personality
    EXTREMELY DANGEROUS WOMAN

    Borderline women are DANGEROUS.
    In their wake, they cause men to be:
    BROKE
    INCARCERATED
    DEMONIZED
    and sometimes
    DEAD

    That is not a joke or an exaggeration.
    IT IS A FACT.

    WHAT TO WATCH OUT FOR
    Six Subtle Gateways to Borderline Hell
    Here are the EASIEST WAYS to tell if you’re dealing with a
    woman who has Borderline Personality Disorder,
    or enough Borderline Traits that she belongs IN YOUR REAR VIEW MIRROR:

    CLICK HERE https://youtu.be/iihsbrwqZLU?t=164

  27. LOOK CLOSELY…..

    THIS is WHAT MELISSA MALERBA MACNEIL is going to do TO YOU if you stick around.
    She has done it to EVERY MAN IN HER LIFE… AND OFTEN MORE THAN ONE OF THEM AT THE SAME TIME
    Jimmy – Richie – Mark – Bill – Keith – Bill again – ETC ETC ETC

  28. Notice that Melissa Malerba has not introduced you to her friends?
    SHE NEVER WILL! SHE NEVER HAS!

    This is WHY Melissa Malerba MacNeil will NEVER introduce
    YOU or ANY OTHER Romantic Interest to her friends…

    Because she needs to make YOU the scapegoat!
    She needs to portray YOU as the bad guy!

    So If her friends meet you, they will be able to form their own opinions of you
    and then Melissa will no longer be able to portray YOU as the bad guy!
    Melissa Malerba MacNeil will NOT ALLOW THAT!!!

    WATCH HERE:
    https://youtu.be/vnhzZciUuc0?t=92

  29. Unmasking a Covert Narcissist – Counterfeit Relationship – Narcissism Expert
    In this video, I explain the very complicated undertaking
    of uncovering /unmasking a covert narcissist.
    Because of their manipulative nature and the fact that they are often
    respected and even adored by others, average people will not believe it

    https://youtu.be/3an9crV9feM?t=30

  30. ANY VICTIM WILL DO!!!!!!
    She has ZERO preferences as
    far as your:
    occupation,
    hair color,
    build,
    job,
    income,
    or ethnic group….
    BECAUSE ANY VICTIM WILL DO!!!!

  31. Narcissistic Abusive Conditioning
    By the time a narcissist discards their victim, they usually are to fearful of what might happen if they expose or say anything negative to anyone. It is my opinion and personal experience, the mental abuse encountered from a narcissist is the worst abuse someone could receive. A narcissist doesn’t discard a victim until they have completely stripped them of all self worth.

    Reports of past abuse done to an ex is a big red flag.
    Please have a plan to part with her quickly if needed.
    During the first part of the relationship often selfish and abusive people do not show their true colors.

    https://www.quora.com/My-current-boyfriends-ex-called-me-and-warned-me-that-he-is-a-narcissist-and-an-abuser-What-should-I-do

  32. 30 Traits of a Narcissist.

    Knowledge is power; the more we know about a condition the more likelihood we have of understanding it and dealing with it. That is when we are in a position to take all the steps necessary to protect and prepare ourselves so that the narcissist can no longer keep us tangled and cocooned in their sticky and endlessly spun web of lies.

    For those who have been affected by a relationship with a narcissist, try not to feel responsible for their behavior or feel foolish for not seeing signs sooner. A narcissist has often developed magnetizing qualities and a seductive charm as they need these things in order to ensure the mask they wear is never questioned or removed.

    A game of manipulation has been played and the only way to end the game is to regain self-confidence and take back control.

    https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/mirror-mirror-on-the-wall30-traits-of-a-narcissist/

  33. Signs You Are Dating a Con Artist:
    Instant Intimacy

    If your new girlfriend tells you within the first few days
    or weeks of dating that she can really fall in love with you,
    that no one understands him like you do or that he has never
    felt such a strong connection before, don’t fall for it.

    This is a con artist technique called “mirroring,”
    according to Palmatier. The con artist is setting you up.
    It takes more than a few weeks of dating for feelings
    such as these to be genuine. The con artist is telling you what
    she believes you want to hear to get something from you later.

    Asking for Money

    After the con artist has prepared you by showing her best side
    and by creating instant intimacy, be ready for the other shoe
    to drop.

    She will invariably need money for something.

    She might tell you a story of her car breaking down,
    leaving her with no other way to get to work or take her
    children to school, for example. Con artists will keep asking
    for more and more, while YOU are getting NOTHING IN RETURN.

    Do not begin telling yourself lies that things will get better.
    They won’t.
    Get out before you are taken!!!

    Becoming involved with a con artist will only lead to disaster for you.
    ——————————————————–
    Guys: Watch out for women con artists!

    Scamming money for debts or repairs: Con artists can introduce
    sad stories about debts they need to pay, or car repairs they need
    in order keep their job.
    Money for groceries.
    Money for hair appointments.
    Money for phone upgrades.
    Money for medical co-pays.
    Money for car repairs.

    Often, the con artist is very skilled at getting you to OFFER WHATEVER THEY WANT;
    they don’t even need to ask for it, YOU VOLUNTEER IT!

    Faking a Terminal Illness:
    Jessica Vega has been indicted for
    fraud and grand larceny and is accused of faking leukemia in
    order to get others to pay for an expensive wedding and
    honeymoon. The case hasn’t been tried yet, but the type of
    behavior she is accused of is similar to cons used on
    Internet dating sites (the fake illness ploy).

    There are a few things we can be absolutely sure of when it
    comes to con artists who are all sociopaths/ psychopaths.

    The first is that they will take advantage of loop holes in the legal system.

    We have received several letters from men in that last few months detailing the lengths psychopathic
    women will go to in order to extort money from men.

    “The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie
    – – deliberate, contrived and dishonest, but the myth – –
    persistent, persuasive, unrealistic.”
    – John F. Kennedy
    ——————————————————
    What is a Con – Artist?

    con is short for confidence.
    they aren’t artists, like with paint and canvas.
    they are people who trick other people into giving her:
    Money for groceries.
    Money for hair appointments.
    Money for phone upgrades.
    Money for medical co-pays.
    Money for car repairs.

    They are criminals.

    ————————-
    Con artists are above average in intelligence.
    They are self-educated and know how to be extremely
    sociable, although they are anti-social which means lacking
    any social conscience.
    Their charm and sincerity are empty of any real concern.

    They have the innate ability to juggle several balls at once
    without missing a beat. They easily compartmentalize their
    different characters, victims, and on-going scams .
    Gifted with an exceptional memory, the swindler can access each
    current script with the speed of a computer;
    and if they cannot quite remember a fact (or lie), they can dance
    around the lapse so convincingly that you will seldom, if ever, notice.

    A con artist looks like a mother, a grandmother, a priest,
    a banker, an insurance salesman, a trustee, a photographer,
    an executive, a policeman, a boyfriend, a doctor, a lawyer,
    a real estate agent, a teacher, a mechanic, a craftsman,
    a diplomat, a student. A con artist looks
    like me, a con artist looks like you.

    WHAT A CON ARTIST LOOKS FOR IN A SCAM VICTIM
    The chosen

    Con artists choose you very carefully.
    They are only interested in those people who can be turned around to
    believe in them without question, who can be manipulated to believe
    in their illusions.

    They don’t merely seek out the greedy or the weak or the stupid.
    Not at all.
    They seek out the needy.

    They sniff and snuffle around until they find someone who has an unfulfilled desire
    that even you yourself may be unaware of until the carrot is dangled in front of your face.

    Con artists will stalk anyone whose weaknesses or strengths
    can be used to their advantage.

    Scan through the character traits below, and you will see the con artist’s menu.

    As far as she is concerned any character trait can be exploited
    and manipulated once your needs have been established.
    No one is immune.

    Character traits: Pride, Ego, Anxiety, Ignorance, Ageing,
    Youth, Dreams, Security, Insecurity, Fear, Greed, Loneliness,
    Popularity, Assumed knowledge, Success, Failure, Illness,
    Self-Confidence, Desperation, Vulnerability, Ambition,
    Laziness, Wisdom, Hateful, Loving, any trait will do.

    Right from the start

    From the very moment a con artist targets you, their entire arsenal
    of psychological manipulation is brought into play.

    You are moved from a position of control to one of no control over anything at all.

    The con artist moves into the position of supreme power,
    regardless of how powerful you may be in real life.

    How can this be? Because you are the only character in the play
    who hasn’t a clue as to what is really happening. No one has
    given you a script to follow. The only choice given you is to
    react to what the other players are saying and doing.

    Reality is gone, you just don’t know it yet
    – your real world has been completely and effectively
    replaced with that of the con artist.
    Smoke and mirrors.

    You know the game is over when they start using fear tactics
    to keep you off balance: how scammers stay out of jail
    http://www.fraudaid.com/backstage/why_scammers_dont_go_to_jail.htm

    Why scammers are so seldom sent to jail

    Con artists manipulate their victims to keep them from filing fraud reports

    Shame, guilt, and fear • Why victims don’t report fraud

    Shame, guilt, and fear

    Once a con artist has completed their scam, they will yank the
    rug out from under you. Suddenly, without warning,
    you have to come to terms with the fact that you have
    been taken to the cleaners.

    —The effect is devastating – it was planned to be —

    From the very start of a scam you are kept just slightly off balance so
    that you feel you must cling to the con artist for support. During
    the entire manipulation, you are being emotionally positioned so that
    when the con artist disappears,
    you will feel as if you have pushed off a merry-go-round. In effect, you were.

    You are suddenly left without the rudder in whom you believed with all your heart.
    To admit you were wrong can be emotionally shattering.
    You are left reeling and alone with that voice inside your
    head yelling, “What have I done?!”

    Dignity and self-esteem are gone, replaced with shame, guilt, embarrassment,
    and anger (usually self-directed).
    You think I’m going overboard with this description? Not really.
    Not only have I been there, but I get letters from victims every day and that’s exactly how they all feel.

    Why victims don’t report fraud

    Many don’t know where to turn, so they don’t file a report
    anywhere.

    Many are so distraught that they contact every agency
    they can think of, which has no effect at all.

    Many are extremely upset when they try to talk to law
    enforcement, end up merely sounding hysterical, no clear
    story emerges, and they give up without having given the
    police anything to go on.

    Many have been threatened in one way or another by the
    scammer and are afraid of retribution from either the con
    artist himself or law enforcement.

    And finally, the majority feel themselves to be damn fools
    and are not about to make it worse by going public.
    They just can’t bring themselves to admit they’ve made a mistake.
    They cannot bring themselves to admit that they have been
    set up by a scammer

    They are embarrassed that they were taken by this smooth talker

    “The only thing required for evil to prevail is for good men to do nothing.”

  34. *Conversation With A Narcissist: 12 Things To Look Out For*

    Any of these seem familiar?
    If you have been in a relationship with a COVERT NARCISSIST,
    or any other type of Cluster-B Personality Disordered Individual,
    YOU WILL KNOW THESE ALL TOO WELL…
    Click Here:
    https://youtu.be/UC09nTGKOEo?t=161

    Narcissistic Tactics They Use:
    Constant Interruption
    Talking Over You
    Talking Loudly
    Increasing Their Tempo
    Being Defensive
    Demanding Apologies
    Sulking
    Lying
    Denying
    Changing The Subject Repeatedly
    Pretending They Did Not Hear You
    Completely Ignoring You

    And if all that FAILS…..

    They Will Punish You With SILENCE

  35. Guys… BE HONEST WITH YOURSELVES for just a
    moment and THINK ABOUT THIS….

    How many times have you messaged BEAUTIFUL WOMEN
    on dating sites only to get NO RESPONSE?

    Maybe they read your message…

    Maybe they looked at your profile…

    But how many of the REALLY PRETTY ONES responded to you?

    Generally, not many of them, if any at all.
    (Especially if we’re average looking)

    But WAIT!!!!
    THIS ONE RESPONDED TO YOU!!!!
    Why?
    ….because…. ANY VICTIM WILL DO!!!!!

    CLICK HERE: https://youtu.be/NeeZSXY_swo?t=15
    (It bears repeating!!!)

  36. HSP Guide To Identifying Covert Narcissism

    Highly Sensitive People and empaths are often
    confused by the behavior of covert narcissists.

    We question our sanity, feel apprehensive and uncertain about
    our reality.

    Here is a concise list of typical behaviors to help clarify.
    Knowledge can set us free..

    HSP Guide To Identifying Covert Narcissism
    Click Here: https://youtu.be/K5Reykp6-1c?t=292

  37. Narcissists Exposed – 75 Things Narcissists Don’t Want You to Know

    Finally, a book that answers every question ever asked about narcissists. Drew Keys, founder of the acclaimed Light’s House.org, reveals the inside secrets to the frustrating and crazy-making games narcissists play — and reveals the ins and outs of how (and why) they do what they do.

    Narcissists Exposed is a concise, plain-English, no-holds-barred exposé that leaves narcissists nowhere to hide. Drawing on information based on over 1/4 million family members, friends, coworkers and partners of narcissists and the latest research findings about narcissism, this book answers the top 75 questions asked about narcissists, from whether they really know what they’re doing to precisely how they manipulate others and how to avoid being made their target.

    A must-read for anyone wanting to figure out narcissists, Narcissists Exposed empowers its readers by revealing exactly what all narcissists are up to and why, and what the reader can do about it.

    https://www.amazon.com/Narcissists-Exposed-Things-Dont-Want-ebook/dp/B007WHS8FI

  38. And THIS is where you REALLY NEED TO LISTEN

    Borderlines manipulate, exploit and capitalize
    on ANY compassion you offer them.

    If you look back on your experience with her,
    you will find ONE EXAMPLE AFTER ANOTHER of
    where she took your good will,
    your sense of fair play,
    and your willingness to compromise
    and USED THEM AGAINST YOU.

    She took EVERY concession you
    made… AND WANTED MORE.

    LISTEN HERE https://youtu.be/4cfzC7aPztA?t=252

  39. FREE RENT ALL HER LIFE – A sweeter deal than Section-8 Housing

    WILL**YOU** BE HER **NEXT** LANDLORD THAT SHE **DOESN’T PAY RENT TO, EITHER***????

    LOOK AT HER TAX RETURNS FOR THE PAST 25 YEARS –
    HAS SHE DEDUCTED RENT ON THEM?
    Wouldn’t that be TAX FRAUD???
    Ask her for ANY AND ALL RENT RECEIPTS SHE HAS PAID ANYWHERE TO ANYONE.

    Yeah.

  40. MELISSA MACNEIL –
    Has Changed her Facebook from her Maiden Name
    Melissa Malerba back to her Married name Melissa MacNeil

    Lowell MA
    Salem NH

  41. The Female Narcissist

    When the female narcissist targets you, she moves with great speed.
    The first time you meet her she seems to appear out of nowhere.
    But in fact, she has been watching you for a minute and sizing you up for the kill.

    She has figured out your vulnerabilities and she will use them to get what she wants:
    fame (if you’re a celebrity), power, or wealth.

    The female Narcissist is attractive, intelligent, very charming and
    highly confident that she can take everything you own.
    These women lack what healthy women possess naturally;
    a conscience, character, empathy for others, etc.

    The female narcissist makes up for what she lacks by constructing
    a false sense of self.

    Then she projects that false self to others.

    In her rigid world, she is queen and the world revolves around her.

    Hell hath no fury like the RAGE you will encounter if you
    don’t completely IGNORE your needs for HERS.

    You might think you’re in love with her, but her ultimate goal
    is to destroy you (emotionally) and leave your life in ruins.

    The only thing that will save you is if you recognize the early warning signs and get out in time!!!

    FULL ARTICLE HERE: http://sandrarose.com/2013/01/the-female-narcissist/

  42. FOOD FOR THOUGHT:

    There’s a reason Narcissistic Women go to such great
    lengths to keep their victims from meeting their other
    past victims…
    Including the damage control the Narcissist attempts to perform
    by going into detail about how “crazy” their ex is, as a way to
    attempt to tarnish their ex’s credibility so you won’t believe
    what the ex may tell you about their dealings with the Narcissist.

    Example…
    Bob: Nancy is a manipulator, a user and an abuser.
    You should not get involved with her, Steve.

    Steve: Really, Bob? Hmmm, okay. Thanks.

    Steve (to Nancy): I saw Bob today and we talked for
    a while.

    Nancy: Bob is crazy. He’s an alcoholic and a
    pill-popping druggie. Don’t believe what he says.

  43. SHE WILL REEL YOU IN WITH SOB STORIES…
    Because you are a KIND Person…
    She will make you feel SORRY for her…

    Then…

    SHE WILL TAKE EVERYTHING YOU HAVE.

    You.
    Do.
    Not.
    Matter.

    Melissa Malerba-MacNeil does NOT CARE about you.
    She ONLY CARES about what you will GIVE TO HER.

    Narcissists WILL NOT and CAN NOT Give One Drop – 100% Takers
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OTfWEDSGUNE

  44. The ONE THING that cannot be hidden forever, is the TRUTH.

    So…
    Let’s invite ANY MAN
    to STEP UP here and now… and tell us ALL
    what a GREAT ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP
    **YOU** HAD WITH MELISSA MACNEIL (Melissa Nicole Malerba) from Tewksbury DOB 3-2-1972

    DO YOU EXIST?

    Step forward, PLEASE and tell us about it.
    ****You don’t have to use your name****

    Just simply tell the world…
    WHEN you met her.
    HOW LONG you dated her.
    and HOW KIND AND LOVING SHE WAS TO YOU
    and… FOR HOW LONG.

    Let’s hear it!

  45. *** TRAUMA BONDING – How the Narcissist REELS YOU IN. ***

    How many times has Melissa MacNeil (Malerba)
    made PLANS with YOU…
    Only to CANCEL THEM?

    Then made PLANS with YOU AGAIN…
    AND THEN CANCELLED THOSE PLANS AGAIN.

    Then make PLANS with YOU AGAIN…
    AND THEN CANCELLED THOSE PLANS STILL YET AGAIN.

    The Promise….
    The Hope…
    The Carrot dangled in front of your nose…
    THEN PULLED AWAY…
    Over and over and over and over and over and over and over again.

    SOUND FAMILIAR?

    That is only ONE FORM of what is called:
    ** TRAUMA BONDING **

    It’s usually one step forward and two steps back.

    But why do these fall backs happen?
    They often happen because of hope.

    Hope keeps us in a limbo kind of state,
    it prevents us from going onward
    … we are always waiting.

    Maybe it’s your partner, ex, parent, co-worker, or friend.
    You know you’re not safe around them, and yet, you stay.
    Maybe, you even justify, rationalize, or make excuses for them.
    And, you’ve been doing it for a long time.

    Yet, you stay.

    Waiting for a reward that, deep within,
    you know is NEVER going to come.
    Yet, you wait.

    And sure, there’s a biochemical reason for part of this.
    We do form neurological and physical addictions to the
    drama and trauma.

    You’ve probably read about this before.
    But, there’s something even more disturbing and
    more difficult to face and overcome in these relationships.

    Trauma-Bonding.

    Trauma bonds occur in very toxic relationships and are
    strengthened by intermittent positive reinforcement—
    or, what is often referred to as the “Hurt and Rescue” cycle.

    Trauma bonds occur in extreme situations such as
    abusive relationships and hostage situations,
    but also in any ongoing toxic relationship in which
    there is a great deal of pain mixed with periodic times of calm.
    (You know, the whole, “When they’re not destroying my soul
    and committing atrocious betrayals, they can be rather endearing.”)

    This is how we form beliefs such as,
    “Oh, at heart, Melissa Malerba MacNeil is really a good person.”

    “She means well, but she’s just not very good at _______.”

    “I know Melissa doesn’t mean to hurt me.”

    All of these thoughts are sure signs of trauma-bonding.

    I could write all day about this, but in short, if you know
    that someone you love is bad for you and you experience
    SHORT periods of EUPHORIA in the relationship
    followed by AWFUL, DEVASTATING, SOUL CRUSHING DISAPPOINTMENTS,
    then YOU ARE TRAUMA BONDED.
    No way around it.

    Are you getting it yet??

    The excitement before the trauma (of betrayal and neglect)
    is created during the devalue stage…
    that point in time right before a discard when our intuition has
    already told us Melissa Malerba MacNeil is going to leave based on her behaviors.

    It’s that knot-in-the-stomach feeling,
    the overwhelming urge to call her phone 100 times,
    the torment of cognitive dissonance….
    it’s the hours spent scouring the internet looking for clues…
    it’s the feeling we get from the chaos that a narcissist ALWAYS
    creates right before the silence.

    Like it or not, we become highly addicted to Melissa’s narcissistic
    behaviors and all of the nonsense that goes with it…
    and we miss it like a motherf*cker when it’s gone…

    when, suddenly, the narcissist goes silent.

    We long for the connection
    – as manipulated and fabricated as it is
    – until we can barely breathe.

    Then, right before we either kill ourselves or come to
    our senses, in swoops the narcissist Melissa Malerba MacNeil once again –
    like a Phoenix rising –
    to give us the second reinforcement:
    the peace of surrender that happens afterwards!

    Melissa Malerba MacNeil’s reappearance is
    METICULOUSLY TIMED for MAXIMUM EFFECT
    and usually follows a silent treatment that has
    lasted just a tad longer than the one before.

    The narcissist Melissa Malerba MacNeil is conditioning
    us to accept less and less so she can get away with more
    each time she vanishes.

    Either way, this second dose of reinforcement –
    the peace of surrender – feels like absolute heaven!

    Again, it’s our addiction – to the narcissist and the make-up sex,
    to the vanishing of our anxiety,
    and to the feeling of calmness and euphoria we get from
    knowing that, once again, we’ve been given a reprieve to
    breathe until the cycle repeats again.

    Seduce and discard…
    seduce and discard…
    till the end of all f*cking time.

    And, at the moment it’s happening,
    we’re actually okay with that!

    In fact, there’s no place in the world we’d rather be.

    No one excites us in quite the same way or with the
    same intensity as a toxic partner.
    Via trauma bonding, we become the suffering and the
    suffering becomes us.
    We forget what normalcy feels like.
    We stop differentiating between good excitement and bad excitement.

    The chaos and turmoil becomes almost as big a turn-on for us as it does for the N.

    If we look back on or inward on (if we’re still in it)
    our relationship, we see that at the moment the Idolize Phase ends,
    the trauma bonding began.

    We may not have even known this but you can be sure
    that the narcissist did. As time passed and the narcissistic
    partner became more successful at managing down our
    expectations of the relationship, our connection to the
    nonsense began to stick like super glue.

    But now that we know it….
    that there is a name for that
    strange hold this bizarre person had over us..
    we can make sure it never happens to us again.

    If we’re still in the relationship, then we can get out (and fast!)
    because, unlike a hostage victim who trauma bonds with a
    kidnapper, we are NOT being held at gunpoint and we CAN escape.

    Let us be grateful for that fact and do what we need to do to save our sanity.

  46. Stop Explaining To The Narcissist !!!!

    – THEY REACT to their OWN Emotions –
    They do NOT React TO WHAT YOU DID
    They do NOT React TO WHAT YOU SAID

    It’s all about what is happening in THEIR internal landscape.

    Their INTERNAL DIALOGUE is berating them in a hundred
    different ways every single day of their lives telling them,
    “You’re stupid. You’re ugly. Nobody loves you. You’re worthless.”

    They are responding to THAT internal dialogue in their head.
    They are NOT responding to YOU.

    You can TRY to explain that your motives are not negative.
    You can TRY to explain that you don’t hate them.
    You can TRY to explain that you do not think badly about them.

    But the Narcissist has been listing to that internal dialogue their
    ENTIRE LIFE and they are completely, totally and utterly convinced of that.

    They are NEVER going to believe YOU.
    They are not even going to HEAR you.

    Did you ever notice that it seems like they are listening and responding
    to SOMEONE ELSE while you are talking to them?
    Responding to someone else who is saying something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT
    than what YOU are saying to them?

    That is because THEY ARE Responding to someone else and NOT responding to YOU.

    Narcissists expect to be treated badly BECAUSE of that inner voice is saying to them,
    and they will LOOK for EVIDENCE OF THAT in EVERY SINGLE THING other people do.

    And of course, THEY FIND IT!
    Mostly because they
    PUSH
    PROVOKE
    and HARASS
    other people and they REFUSE to accept anything else.

    Narcissists CAN NOT accept being treated RESPECTFULLY.
    It “jams their radar” and makes them very, very uneasy.

    Since they EXPECT to be treated BADLY,
    they are CONSTANTLY on edge, waiting for that to happen.

    They will often CAUSE ARGUMENTS or ACCUSE PEOPLE of Treating them BADLY
    for NO REASON, simply to fulfill that expectation and EASE their internal tension.

    After they provoke an emotional response from you in this manner –
    you can actually SEE the relief in their faces… they feel GOOD that they
    elicited a negative emotional response from you and now the narcissist can RELAX.

    Trying to EXPLAIN ANYTHING to a Narcissist in these situations is USELESS.
    You are not going to get anywhere. You will NOT get through to them.
    Not only is the Narcissist NOT LISTENING to you – They also DO NOT WANT TO BELIEVE YOU.
    The Narcissist wants to believe you are EVIL.
    That makes them A VICTIM!
    That makes them THE CENTER OF ATTENTION!
    and most of all…. it makes them “right”!

    If they have to accept that YOU are NOT Evil…. then WHO IS TO BLAME for all these problems?
    There’s only one person left… The Narcissist themselves…. and they will NEVER EVER accept that!

    In the Narcissist’s Cartoon view of the world, there always has to be a villain
    (picture Snidely Whiplash or Simon Bar Sinister) and a hero.
    If the villain is not YOU, then it will HAVE o be THEM.
    …and if that’s true… that means that everything that voice in their
    head is saying to them is RIGHT!!!!

    Do not forget….
    Narcissism is nothing but a DEFENSE MECHANISM AGAINST that little voice in their head.

    That little voice that says they’re evil, horrible, disgusting vomit.
    So, in self defense, the narcissist created a FALSE SELF that is the complete polar opposite
    of that image… a HERO, in other words.
    SOMEONE HAS to be EVIL, because all of that inner bile and rage has to go SOMEWHERE…
    SO IT HAS TO BE DIRECTED AT YOU.

    You were ONCE the hero… when they first met you.
    You were perfect and you were going to save them and make everything GREAT!
    But you revealed yourself as a mere mortal human with no superpowers,
    and WORSE… you revealed that THE NARCISSIST is also a mere mortal human with no superpowers, either.

    So you are NOW THE VILLAIN in this story because of that and YOU can NEVER BE ANYTHING ELSE.

    Beyond that, the narcissist LIKES that you try to make them understand that you care about them.
    They love the FUTILITY and SINCERITY and the DESPERATION and the fact that YOU KEEP TRYING
    and keep jumping through hoops for them!
    They don’t BELIEVE you (and they never will) but they still love watching and listening to you try!
    They LOVE frustrating you and upsetting you and sucking your
    life force out of you, One Pointless Argument At A Time.

    EXPLAINING, therefore… is really only FEEDING THEIR EGO and their egotistical need for attention,
    because (saying again) THEY ARE NOT GOING TO BELIEVE YOU.
    THEY. NEVER. BELIEVE. YOU.

    And even if they DID believe you for a moment…
    That inner voice of their super ego that piles on them
    internal abuse 24 hours a day is NEVER GOING TO LET THEM BELIEVE YOU.

    Their CLUSTER B Personality Disorder is set up so perfectly that
    THE EXACT THINGS THAT THEY NEED TO HEAR AND UNDERSTAND
    IN ORDER TO HEAL AND CHANGE THEIR LIVES
    ARE EXACTLY THE THINGS THEY ARE PROGRAMMED TO DENY AND BLOCK OUT THE MOST.

    I am going to say that again….

    Their CLUSTER B Personality Disorder is set up so perfectly that
    THE EXACT THINGS THAT THEY NEED TO HEAR AND UNDERSTAND
    IN ORDER TO HEAL AND CHANGE THEIR LIVES
    ARE EXACTLY THE THINGS THEY ARE PROGRAMMED TO DENY AND BLOCK OUT THE MOST.

    That is very tragic.

    Because of that blind spot, the narcissist self destructs over, and over, and over, and over, and over.

    They are the most MISERABLE PEOPLE ALIVE and they walk around their entire lives not realizing
    they are doing it ALL TO THEMSELVES.

    THERE ARE NONE SO BLIND AS THOSE WHO REFUSE TO SEE.

    It’s VERY EASY to get caught in the trap of trying to EXPLAIN to a Narcissist.
    When a problem is so easy for us to see, OF COURSE we’re going to try to
    help them to understand!

    “HEY! You can fix this! All you have to do is stop doing this and that and the other thing”

    As a RATIONAL Adult person, that is what most of us do.
    We attempt to communicate.
    If the communication is fouled up along the way, we try to fix whatever is
    fouling it up so that we are heard and things can be resolved..

    THE PROBLEM IS: In the situation trying to speak to the narcissist
    THE LINES ARE CROSSED IN A PLACE WHERE YOU CAN NOT REACH THEM
    AND YOU CANNOT AFFECT THEM.
    IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW MUCH YOU SAY IT OR HOW MANY TIMES YOU REPEAT IT
    OR HOW YOU SAY IT OR WHAT YOU SAY….

    THEY ARE NOT GOING TO HEAR IT.
    THEY CAN NOT HEAR IT
    THEY DO NOT WANT TO HEAR IT
    THEY NEVER WILL.

    SO WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN MELISSA MALERBA MACNEIL ACCUSES YOU OF DOING THINGS YOU DID NOT DO?
    SO WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN MELISSA MALERBA MACNEIL ACCUSES YOU OF SAYING THINGS YOU DID NOT SAY?

    LISTEN HERE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aTHwsd37O_A

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